Vicky Midwood

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I truly believe I went through the life experiences that I’ll share with you in my story for a reason, to step into my purpose and you to get through life without using food, alcohol exercise or all three to cope. 

Here we go....

Ginger haired freckled and tall for my age with thighs that touched right down to my knees and a round tummy, I was constantly hearing the phrase, ‘It’d just puppy fat, she’ll lose it” when I was at infant school. 

I was popular coz I used to ‘supply’ my classmates with penny sweets ‘stolen’ from behind the counter of our shop. The family firm was well known in our “Howarth’s Of Huddersfield” town and food was the business. 

I wanted to be liked, I wanted to be the best at everything I leaned early on that I was expected to do well, be bright and work hard, because that’s how you succeeded in life. 

I also learned early that Mum had issues with her mental health and Dad’s way of dealing with it was verbal and sometimes physical abuse. My home was not the happy house we all projected to the outside world. 

A house move, secondary school, money arguments and Mum being sectioned into a psychiatric hospital for the first of many times with Manic Depression ( Bi-Polar Disorder) all lead to me comfort eating even more and being unhappy in my own body. 

The first failed diet was the F-plan at 12 years old and so began my obsession with calories, weighing food, restriction, bingeing guilt and discovering if I stuck my fingers down my throat I could literally have my cake, ice-cream, sweets and biscuits and eat them then get rid of them so I didn’t put weight on. 

I couldn’t stick to any diet, I caved every time and over time my binges became bigger, more secretive, and more and more planned. I stole food, I hid it for later, I lied about what I was eating, 

In came the crazy exercise to burn calories late at night and early in the morning you’d find me sneaking out of the house so no-one would know. 

As the lies and manipulation, thieving and binging grew, so did the number of masks I had to wear. 

Going out on the town getting into night clubs at 13 and discovering alcohol made not eating easier and if I did eat made throwing up easier, added another element to my ‘sick’ toolbox. I liked the feeling of being slightly drunk…

Laxative abuse and addiction took me down a whole new road that had me using my waste bin in my room as a toilet at night and wearing a towel as a nappy in bed! 

I’d convinced myself I was in control of my bulimia but at 16 it was totally in control of me. I just wanted to die, my weight was finally dropping, but instead of feeling great at 7.5 stone I wanted to die! 

One year later I was flunking my A levels, 5.5 stone permanently cold and being threatened with hospitalisation. 

My overriding drive to NEVER be forced to doing anything and stubbornness meant I had to force myself to eat. 

It was a daily battle physically and mentally, but as I has no clue about nutrition and was so out of touch with my own hunger and full signals the weight piled, and I kept eating! 

Now overweight I couldn’t handle it and went back to what I knew worked, throwing up and crazy exercise until I ‘allowed’ myself to accept setting at 7 stone when I met my first husband at 18 years old and drinking more and eating less became my new ‘diet’. 

Fast forward a disastrous first marriage, I trained as an exercise instructor and PT met my 2nd husband a restaurateur, another disaster, he was an alcoholic and by this point so was I, but I was totally in denial. 

After a 2nd divorce, a bankruptcy and a baby at age 29 I found myself 3 and a bit years later with potential husband number 3 in London! 

My weight had increased thanks to my training and my new understanding of nutrition and exercise, (but I still wasn’t happy with it!) however, once I realised life was not going to be any easier than it had been as a working single Mum in Huddersfield, I was left feeling alone and an outsider in London,  my drinking escalated to whole new level. 

Another 2 years and another relationship down, I found someone else,! 

But he was married and wasn’t going to leave his wife for me, so at 35 I was a functioning alcoholic who had a warped relationship with food and most of the time wished she was dead. The only person keeping me going was my daughter (I was told I couldn’t have kids so she was and still is my everything) 

A weekend away and just 4 hrs without alcohol took me into serious and dangerous withdrawals with hallucinations and everything that lasted 5 days before I was finally placed in Rehab and treated properly. Fears of brain damage were real and it was touch and go as to whether my organs especially my heart could cope. 

Rehab in the UK was followed by another 60 days in Sough Africa where I learned to live and function as a adult without alcohol and I loved it! I got to learn brain! 

A whole new world opened up when I got back to the UK in September 2005 as I studied cognitive behavioural therapy, language, neurolinguistic programming, addiction psychology and dealing with trauma. I went back to study and graduated as a teacher, started my own business alongside working in a college, being a single mum and running my own home, with a drive to get off benefits (I’d never been on them in my life before) and build a good life and future. 

But stress lead to me turning back to food and exercise was my business, so as the number of classes and clients I worked with increased so did my awareness of my body and how the world viewed me, over exercising started to creep back in and food restriction and binges on sweets were common – what was I doing? 

I knew better, yet I started to feel powerless again. Injuries forced my to cut back on the exercise and I then. Began to delve more into bio-chemistry, neurophysiology and neuropsychology, hormones, the gut, and the gut brain connection and THAT is when I discovered the answers I need to help myself and others. 

Because of my drive for knowledge and understanding I know why I have the autoimmune issue Hashimoto’s thyroiditis and how to manage it without medication and why I had a heart attack in 2018. 

I also know how to help YOU get free from alcohol and disordered eating with the various programs I offer. 

Vicky xx